The Question Mark on a Decision
Here is a quiet one. The Apologizer takes a decision he is fully allowed to make and turns it into a question he is asking permission to have made. Does that make sense? Are we okay with that? A statement goes up at the end like a hand raised for approval. He is not actually unsure. He has decided. But the upward turn hands the call to whoever is listening, and now a thing he owned is a thing he is requesting. The cost is subtle and it compounds. Every decision he floats as a question trains the room to believe his decisions are up for a vote. Then he wonders why nothing he decides quite sticks. If you have made the call, land the sentence. Let it end flat, on the period. Not every sentence is a request. Some of them are just the answer.
Tomorrow: the Apologizer from another angle.
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